Not meant to be?
For future reference: You know your relationship has gone bad (other than the obvious cheating) when…
1) Talking to him/her makes you feel worse than you did before (even if you were happy)
2) Hanging out becomes a chore
3) Neither wants to take initiative
4) The relationship is need-based, not want-based. Becomes more of a dependent, needs fulfillment relationship
5) You don’t feel like declaring your love for each other to the world
6) Low oxytocin levels. =P Note: oxytocin is a hormone that promotes monogamous pair-bonding.
7) More lip action (lip puckers, licking lips) — indicating short-term desire – than head tilts and open, extended arms — indicating long-term love.
8) No physical attraction; no fireworks when you kiss.
9) Lack of support for each others’ dreams and goals
But what separates a break-up from a make-up? Ultimately, how much each of you wants it to work. If you’re both willing to help the relationship work out, I believe it can always be done.
The last time I wanted to wake up was…
probably that one night when I couldn’t fall asleep and being active and awake was better than having nightmarish thoughts creep into my head.
How about the last time I wanted to wake up from sleeping? Most likely this summer on my commute to work in SF. if I didn’t wake up, the free bus would leave without me. Not to mention each morning I had the pleasure of seeing which of my friends would be commuting that day. We would have lively conversations during the 30 minute bus-ride into the city. Indeed, that was the highlight of my day.
Any other times? Maybe those days when I had to wake up to play golf or try something new and fun…or those days when I have to make a good impression by arriving15 minutes early for my interview. other than that, I’m mostly dreading the day that will come, because sometimes I’m afraid of what it will bring…like what if something goes wrong? In fact, often I just lie in bed in the mornings refusing to face the unkown ahead of me, especially on those days when there is something nerve-wracking to do that may have a large impact on my future. These days, it seems that more things can go wrong that go right. I wish I could stay a college kid and have no dire consequences.
Eating is like getting a workout (imho)
Everytime I sit down to have a meal, it’s like I’m getting ready for an hour and a half workout at the gym. When I first start out eating, I’m pretty hungry, so the food is tasty and easy to eat. Just like when I start running on the treadmill, the warm-up is the easy part. Then, it just becomes chugging away at the food, trying to swallow every bite so that the plate of food will disappear. At the gym, running just becomes like being a machine, working away until I serve the hour. Once I get full and don’t feel like eating anymore, I usually have a quarter of a plate left of food which takes another half an hour to eat. That last stretch is the most painful becuase I have to force myself to go the distance. The last few minutes of a workout are also usually the most agonizing because I am tired, sweaty, and my muscles feel as if they are about to give way. Then, I give myself the last push and go for the finish. The whole eating ordeal usually takes about an hour and a half if I were to clean my plate, which is about the same time as one workout session. However, both eating and working out are necessary to my health and well-being, so i must force myself to perform both on a regular and timely basis. By the end, I’m so tired or so full that I really just want to go to sleep.
